...being with a local girl that I love less but is local, or being with a girl I love more but who is far away...
Absence makes the heart grow fonder...
Do you think it's possible that the physical distance you and your girlfriend has anything to do with your greater love for her?
Most certainly! Me and her have actually had conversations about that quote specifically.
A word of advice: long distance relationships* very rarely work out. If you want to keep it, you'll need to figure out a way to get back in proximity to each other on a more permanent basis.
This is another reason why I'm not entirely sure if staying with her is a good call. I don't want to waste my time, or hers, in something that won't even work out...
You're in a trade-off situation, then? These are difficult to deal with and require careful consideration. Since you're more attracted to the distant lass, the distance between you two shouldn't be an issue. If she, too, feels distance is a lesser strain, then it's all gravy.
If your relationship with the distant lass means so much to you, show her just how much you care for her by pushing for more visits. By showing your dedication to the relationship, she'll see the distance as a mere setback, and so will you. As long as you keep in contact, it's all too possible to maintain a healthy relationship.
"Right now I'm essentially trying to figure out what matters more to me;"
It takes two to have a relationship. Include her thoughts and feelings, too.
P.S: I hope things plan out for you.
Thanks man, I hope so too... I'll have a talk with her about this, and I'll see what she thinks. Right now I'm kind of leaning towards breaking up with her, I don't think maintaining a long distance relationship right now is going to be good for either of us, especially at our ages.
I'm not the best person to ask because my wife lived in southern Indiana while I lived in central Indiana. I met her online and after a brief time talking, something just clicked and I knew I wanted to grow old with her. I moved the distance, proposed, and this past Thursday (May 24) we celebrated our 9 yr wedding anniversary. We will celebrate our 11 year anniversary for being together in August and I don't regret a thing. The only advice I can give you is follow your heart, only you know deep down who you want to truly be with out of the two, pick and then try everyday to make it work.
Hey Modshop, are there any news? what did you do? I just wanted to add two things. I made the experience that you have to have really strong feeling sfor each other to make it through a long distance relationship, otherwise you'll fall for someone else who is closer or cheat on your partner eventually.
Quite often you even just think that you fall for someone else just because this person is closer to you and you enjoy the attention and the physical contact - and I don't even mean it in a sexual way.
But don't throw away a relationship that is worth fighting for. i did it and I still regret it.
Is there any chance that it won't be long distance anymore in the near future?
Aye, I ended it with the long distance girl. There was no chance it was ever going to not be long distance, so I figured that I should end it now and not let it carry on any further, causing more harm. As for the local girl.... well that's an interesting story. Apparently things went really bad with her last boyfriend, so she's not ready to date again :/ I plan on dating around until she feels ready again, maybe I'll meet someone special.
Oh, I'm sorry that it didn't work with both girls. If you didnt have strong feelings for the long distance girl you definitely made the right decision. I hope she is ok - I mean, I guess you hurt her with your decision but maybe she felt the same way.
Good luck with everything - i'm sure you'll find someone special some day!