|When I give to street people I remember my dad--a charitable man with serious demons. He was an addict and a good person--sometimes I don't think people realize how complicated the world is. |
I know life isn't fair, and I know I've had it much better than most people. But I also don't think you wind up being a middle-aged hobo living on the street unless you made a very long series of extremely poor life decisions.
Even if, right at this moment, I lost every single possession I have, was evicted, fired, and had no leads on a job, I still
would not be a hobo panhandling on the street. I have friends and family I can fall back to who'd give me a place to crash until I got back on my feet. Now granted you can't pick your family, so I'm lucky to have a good, supportive family... but you can always pick your friends.
If you have absolutely nobody in your life that would help you out in such a situation, that speaks volumes
about your character and your decision making.
But really... that doesn't happen anyway. I'm not going to lose all my possessions, or get evicted, or lose my job. The odds of a perfect storm coming by and knocking out every single thing I have all at once is absurdly low. That's not how it happens.
In reality, what happens is people fuck up, lose their job, then instead of getting their act together and getting a new job, they fuck up more and get kicked out of their place. Then they go to a friend's and crash, but still don't get their act together. They fuck up even more until they alienate all their friends and have nowhere else to go.
Your dad is a good example. He was pulled into that shitty world of drug and alcohol abuse. But he kept his head on straight. He held down a job, had his act together, and provided for his family. Maybe he sympathized with those people on the street... but really, he was better than them. He was proof that even in bad circumstances you can make things work. He's someone to look up to, for sure.
Now I know some people are born into that life, and they "never had a chance" as the saying goes. That really does suck, and those people definitely got the short end of the stick. But I sincerely doubt the people that stop me on the street fall into that category. Of course I can't know that for sure.
|I doubt you would have got it back.|
Yeah you're right.
|Except that the ones who are legitimately stuck in that situation would probably die.|
As cold as it sounds... I have a really hard time sympathizing. For reasons I explained in my reply to chwsks.