How would i change my icon for my application in visual studio 2013 express edition? ive looked around for a few hours and nothing i find seems to explain what i need
You need to make a resource file (e.g. myresourcefie.rc) and indicate the program's icon there. That way the linker knows to embed the icn data and write the executable in a way that Windows Explorer and other programs know that it is an icon and is is the main icon for the program.
For example, this could be your resources.rc:
MAINICON ICON DISCARDABLE "icon.ico"
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