|Phoenix Omega wrote:|
|Three people have said my way of showing respect was annoying, but I've not made a vent thread over it because I can ignore it. They can be annoyed, but venting their annoyance toward me isn't going to make me stop doing what I have done all my life and me venting over the non-acceptance of me won't change their opinion of my form of expressing respect. Them venting though makes me feel unwelcome here because I show respect with formal greetings. |
Firstly, there's a difference between venting and just letting you know. Just because they tell you that what you are doing is annoying them does not mean they are venting. It means they are telling you so that you will realize it's annoying and thus be able to stop. After all, if nobody told you, how could you ever know?
Secondly, you might want to remember what "respect" actually means. If your form of showing respect is annoying people, then you're not really showing respect because you're annoying them (they're contradictory -- you can't really be showing respect while simultaneously annoying someone). If you REALLY
want to show respect, you would honor people's wishes and address them the way they want to be addressed, rather than stubbornly stick to a form a address that you know annoys them.
Ignoring peoples wishes is disrespectful... honoring them is respectful.
Thirdly, if 3 separate people are telling you that your form of address is annoying... you might want to reconsider your form of address for everyone. For every one person that actually speaks up about it being annoying, there are likely others who find it annoying but are too timid to say so.
Lastly, it shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable when people politely tell you that what you are doing is annoying them.
Personally, I don't care one way or the other... though I do find "<Name>, sir, <sentence>"
to be more condescending than respectful, even in 'real life' speech... so I can understand why others find it annoying.
But maybe it's regional. Where are you from?