In real life, people follow patterns of engagement
. For example, if a guy stops in front of your house every day, and starts getting a cup of coffee at the same cafe as you do at the same time you do every day, and you start getting flowers delivered to your doorstep once a week, I can be “very liberal” and say
|Gee, this guy is just too shy/nervous to say ‘Hi’ and ask for a date.|
Unfortunately, in real life people who do that are rarely, if ever, simply too shy to ask a date. You’re being stalked.
And, frankly, you are also in physical danger.
It isn’t “liberal” to ignore the hard data that hundreds of thousands of women go through this every year in the US alone, nor the hard data that most of those women eventually experience some kind of unwanted confrontation with the individual.
But we, as a society, refuse to believe it happens at all, or that the stalker is anything but a confused guy who can’t take a hint/is socially inept/mentally handicapped/insert excuse here.
In fact, I’d say that you are applying the word “liberal” to the wrong end of the conjecture. It is liberal to seriously entertain ideas that don’t square with the facts, or to put thoughts and motives into peoples minds that do not correlate with their behavior.
It’s okay, though. We as a society are trained (brainwashed) to ignore correlations between cause and behavior. Which is why you always read the newspaper stories about the neighbor who says, “We never saw this coming; He was such a nice boy” or the parents who say, “Little Jimmy never did anything like this. He was happy watching Pokemon on his computer and playing Minecraft all day. He did have weird friends, though. Maybe it’s their fault, influencing him like this.”
All that shows is that the people supposedly closest to Jimmy didn’t know anything about him. Ask the friends. “Yeah, Jimmy, he was so full of sh--. He started stalking this girl he thought was pretty. He hated her, thought she considered herself too good for him. And she doesn’t even know he exists! Man, you should have heard what he said he was going to do to her. No one believed us when we said anything, though.”
Now, before anyone gets stupid and thinks I am equating murder with posting, I’m not. I am drawing a connection between observed behavior and motivation, and I am also positing to your mind the (true) idea that incorrect/ignored/editorialized observations do not represent external motivations, but your own.
Behavior is always, always
predicated on a source motive. And the correlations between motive and behavior are never
random. In fact, they are so recognizable that entire companies exist to monitor behavior and apply it for all kinds of things: such as delivering “sponsored content” on Google searches or the ads you see at the top of this forum, or tailoring a product toward customers, and yes, preventing assassinations.
Motives for actual help (to learn/understand) produce very different posts than motives for help (to simply pass a grade/get past an assignment/with as little effort as possible). In fact, that is a prime motive shaping the behavior evidenced by a poster, and you see it bleeding into just about every interaction you have with them: minimal effort. Minimal effort in titling a post, minimal effort in writing a post, minimal effort in asking questions, minimal effort in responding to requests for clarification, minimal effort in all counts — even to the point of saying “thanks for the easy answer” instead of “thanks, I still don’t quite understand it, but I’ll study it to see how it works.”
Beware again: I have not said that ALL posters evidencing low effort are lazy and just want an easy pass. All kinds of things could be happening. Extra homework due yesterday, boyfriend/girlfriend problems, parents divorcing, kids getting sick/hurt/jailed/clingy, tree fell on the house, computer problems, arthritis acting up, etc.
What I am saying is that it falls into the “easy help” pattern, which, should I be failing Calc and Eng Lit and have to turn in a dumb program to compute the Fibonacci series, that would qualify as asking for easy help on a homework forum.
So sorry, not going to get a free pass from me. I am sorry about the fallen tree. If I live nearby, I’ll come help you clean it up. But I won’t absolve you of any requirement to actually learn the material.
And I don’t believe in the learn-by-studying-work-others-did-that-I-used-to-pass method, because it’s lying
tl;dr: You can believe what you want. I reserve the right to be a prick.
PS. If you actually read that wall of text, kudos. I hope you learned something. I also recommend you take some university courses in cognitive behavior and sociology — they are a good starting point for understanding this kind of stuff. Also, some advanced courses in literature and world literature, especially if they take the effort to teach why
a thing was written a certain way and what
is meant by the text, and especially, interpreting
the texts in as many correct ways as possible.